On the face of it, Simon’s point here seems like another one of those
no-brainers. “Be as good as your word.” “Do what you say you
will do.” Certainly, loyalty is also part of the package as is
faithfulness, to the extent that promises have been made. It would seem that
this is simply a further example of predictability, “You can count on
For Simon, though, dependability and keeping commitments go beyond
these types of usual, “the way you deal with everyone” behavior.
Within long-term relationships, they have a more intimate dimension. They are
an important ingredient in the tie that binds, are part of what makes the
are there for each other when either of you needs support, encouragement, or
someone to scratch the itch, so to speak.
are truly interested in and want to know about each other’s activities,
thoughts, and personal issues.
are happy and excited when things go well for either of you and feel badly when
they do not.
share in each other’s lives and are available, good times, bad times, and all.
This level of dependability is what Simon has in mind; and
understanding that it represents your personal commitment to each other is your
individual challenge and shared opportunity.