Have you ever been at a football game and seen a ball skillfully
thrown far down the field? Two receivers go toward the ball about to catch the
perfect pass. Suppose that they both hold back, assuming that the other will
get this one. After the play, they each tell the coach, “It wasn’t my turn.
I got the last one. I’m getting tired of always being the one to go after the
ball.” What do you think the coach will have to say about that? Is it safe
to figure that, among his other comments, there will be one about taking turns
having nothing to do with it? He will likely also make the point that each play
stands on its own. He might even point out that it matters not how the ball got
there either. It was there and both players had a responsibility to work
together to be sure that the ball was caught.
Simon’s final point about long-term relationships is no more
complicated than this.
the ball drops, it no longer matters whose fault it was or whose turn it
If you can take the first step to
improve things or to make things better in your relationship, take it. It’s the
right thing to do.