This activity samples several areas of parenting in order to
draw attention to those areas that are going well and those where there are
some problems. As with other
interpersonal areas, the key is to spend most parenting time and energy
emphasizing those areas that are working, those things that are going
well. At the same time, some effort and
consultation activity need to focus in those areas that are working less well. Using a rating scale from five to one, rate
yourself in terms of the statements below.
Five equals almost always, four equals usually, three equals sometimes,
two equals seldom, and one equals almost never.
Once you have completed your ratings for each item, add your
ratings together and divide the total by fourteen. This will give you a parenting score. Generally, effective parent/child
relationships are found where the parenting score is 4.0 or higher. Even when a score is achieved at this level,
though, attention needs to be given to those areas where individual item
ratings are three or less and especially where the ratings are two or
less. When parent/child difficulties
arise, the first and best strategy is to go back to this activity, focus on
each item, and then work on being sure that the parenting score stays in higher
than 4.0 for at least a month or so.
1. I am reasonable and fair when disciplining my child.
2. I know what my child needs and what is important to
3. I am able to get my child to cooperate with me.
4. I spend time with my child everyday.
5. My child likes to spend time with me.
6. I am pleased with and proud of my child.
7. I am familiar with and interested in my childs
8. I know about and am helping with my childs problems and
9. I set a good example for my child.
10. I give my child his/her space.
11. My child and I regularly talk with each other.
12. I am interested in my childs ideas and thoughts about
13. I support and encourage my childs being who he/she is
and his/her unique style.
14. I am a good parent.